Erin Pohan remembers exactly how it felt the first time she walked into Bridging the Gap and saw accountants laughing in hallways and clustering around tables like they’d known each other for years. “How do they do that?” she wondered. “Don’t they sit at their desks all day like I do?”
Then she spotted Nancy McClelland, Jennifer Dymond, and Roman Villard at a table. She walked up and said simply, “I follow you guys on LinkedIn. It’s so nice to meet you.”
“They all turned their entire body to me and looked me in the eye and wanted to know who I was,” Erin recalled during the live recording of She Counts at the Women in Accounting & Finance Visionaries & Entrepreneurs (WAVE) Seattle event. “In that moment I felt seen.”
She refused to wait another year to feel that way again. So she brought it home to Seattle.
From Conference Afterglow to WAVE-Seattle
After experiencing that connection at Bridging the Gap, Erin didn’t want to hop on planes to Las Vegas or Florida to find community again. She threw an evening WAVE event to test the waters. The momentum was so strong that she posted on LinkedIn to gauge wider interest.
“We had women from ten different states and Canada who were like, yes, sign me up. I want community,” Erin shared with the live audience. “They don’t care where they have to go. They just wanted to have the conversations that we all need to have.”
This was WAVE’s second year, and women flew in from Florida, Chicago, Boston, DC, and Baltimore. What started as Erin’s attempt to recreate her conference afterglow became a space where women in accounting could have the conversations that rarely happen out-loud.
The Success Definitions That Were Never Yours
Nancy has run The Dancing Accountant for 25 years. “Fewer than half of those years have been rosy in any way, shape or form,” she admitted to the audience.
The turning point came from a single crushing conversation. Early in her career, a vendor representative asked about her business model. When Nancy explained she wanted to work in the business, not on it, i.e., no staff, managing schedules, or deliverables, he called her stupid.
“You’re avoiding scaling and you’re leaving money on the table,” he’d said.
Nancy was younger then. She absorbed it the way many of us absorb criticism from someone who sounds authoritative. She believed him.
“At age 54, I can tell you I don’t want to scale. I don’t like scaling. I’m not good at managing a team,” Nancy said. “I’m really, really good at meeting with clients. I’m really good at preparing tax-ready books and teaching people how to do that. So why would I scale?”
She concluded, “I am leaving money on the table. The table can keep it.”
But that vendor’s casual insult cost her ten years. “It took me over a decade to dig out from the mess that I made by listening to what he had to say.”
Co-host Questian Telka’s story is more recent but equally familiar. She’d absorbed the same industry gospel of scale, scale, scale.
“If you don’t have a team of 20, then you’re not really a firm,” she said, mimicking the voices. “You have a job. It’s not a business.”
Nancy cut in, “I think that’s just a shit thing to say.”
“I disagree with it entirely,” Questian shared.
Over the past year, Questian has completely restructured her firm. She let go of her team, offboarded most clients, and pivoted to nonprofit CFO work exclusively. “It’s given me the ability to make a lot more money with a lot fewer clients and a lot less time,” she explained. “Most profit with the least amount of work. I want to enjoy the work I’m doing.”
Why You Need a Board of Directors
Finding courage to rewrite the rules rarely happens alone. That’s where your personal board of directors comes in.
“If you’re the CEO of your own life, who’s your chairman? And who else sits around that table?” Erin asked, sharing the framework that had lit her up after an entrepreneur session.
For Nancy, the chairman is her husband. He’s a software developer who processes her verbal torrents and spots patterns she can’t see. Questian calls him “Nancy’s personal large language model.”
“He is the best large language model ever,” Nancy laughed. “A little less talky than ChatGPT, to be sure.”
The value became clear in one memorable story. Nancy had a famously difficult client. When the client’s lawyer fired Nancy during a dispute, Nancy started arguing to keep the client. Her husband grabbed her arm and whispered, “Nancy, this is freedom. Run!”
“He’d heard all the times I vented,” Nancy explained.
The rest of Nancy’s board includes her “bestie” Melissa Miller Furgeson and her therapist, whom she found in the most accountant way possible.
“I made a spreadsheet of all of the therapists in Chicago,” Nancy confessed. “I kept not choosing one because I was overwhelmed by all of the information.” Finally, she pulled up Google Maps, typed “therapist,” and picked the closest one who wasn’t already her client.
Questian’s board centers on her partner, who pushes her past her comfort zone. At one point, she texted Nancy, “I just borrowed my boyfriend’s balls” to find courage for a business risk.
But your board must have diversity.
“I actually really don’t like the term ‘like-minded people,'” Erin admitted. She values different perspectives, even from something as simple as a LinkedIn poll about a botched swag order. The range of responses helped recalibrate her own reaction.
The Women Still Doing It Alone
When Erin asked what mindset shift the hosts hoped attendees would carry forward, Nancy had her answer: You don’t have to do this alone.
Then she spent the day at WAVE and realized, “You already know you don’t have to do this alone because you’re in this room.” Some attendees had flown across the country to be there.
So Nancy pivoted, “You have other people in your life that need to be taught that they don’t have to do it alone.”
The challenge was direct. When you return to your office, think of one person who needs permission to stop grinding in silence. Reach out to them.
For those ready to find community, the panel offered specific recommendations. Bridging the Gap topped Nancy’s list. It’s where she learned from Nayo Carter-Gray how to take a vacation during tax season. (“I literally live in Mexico for four months during tax season,” Nancy shared.) Local one-day events like WAVE and Advisory Amplified help you meet nearby practitioners who become real connections.
But what if you’re terrified of networking?
“When I first started going to conferences, I couldn’t even talk to anyone. I was too scared,” Questian admitted.
The extroverts will help. Nancy and Sharrin Fuller have a standing offer. If you spot them at any conference, come up and they’ll make sure you meet people. Andrea MacDonald posted online that she’d be “lurking in the corner” as an introvert at WAVE, asking people to find her. That willingness to be vulnerable matters.
There’s also the Accounting Cornerstone Foundation, which provides scholarships for conference attendance. A December fundraiser that Jason Staats matched dollar-for-dollar helped six people attend conferences they couldn’t otherwise afford.
“Give without expecting to receive anything in return,” Questian said, summing up the philosophy underneath it all.
Write Your Own Rules
One moment during the Q&A captured the energy perfectly. When an audience member expressed interest in selling her firm, Erin asked if anyone might want to buy a firm or clients, and hands shot up across the room. “Somebody take a picture of this!” Nancy shouted, as attendees scrambled to capture all the raised hands. Less than two months later, a deal was closed.
These are the conversations and connections that happen when women in accounting gather to talk honestly about burning out and rebuilding, throwing traditional rules out the window, and creating your own path.
“Figure out your why,” Questian urged. “Define what success is to you and don’t listen to or look at what anyone else is doing.”
After everything shared in this episode, they left the audience and listeners with one question: “What’s one definition of success you’ve personally outgrown?”
Listen to the full episode above for the complete conversation, including rapid-fire Q&A about finding therapists, leadership coaches, and more. Then follow the She Counts podcast on LinkedIn to join the conversation.
